Archive for February, 2010

Go Get Your Beautiful Russian, Ukrainian Lady






This article can be as a map to the heart of a Russian, Ukrainian Lady. Only it needs a little understanding, a little patience and you can take The Prize, You can Win their respect and their Heart.

There are 101 different reasons as to why you might be online and searching a partner, but if you are a man, sooner or later you will stumble upon Russian & Ukrainian ladies, why? So many of these ladies share an indefinable and yet undeniable attraction. It is not so easy to actually pinpoint the reasons, but it is very striking and needs to be experienced personally and by western standards these ladies mature at a very young age. It will not take long for any man seeking his partner online to come across these remarkable ladies. Sooner or later he will discover these beautiful ladies. What do you think? Can you imagine having such a lady in your life and at your side? Would you like a little insider advice on how to find and win the heart and respect of one of these ladies?

Whilst some of these ladies can speak a foreign language, not many have computers of their own and many do not have access to the internet, or a personal internet address. So the chances are you will have to find your lady through an agency. Very important! Choose carefully and Find a good one. The next stage is to begin the search. Whilst most of us have some idea of what we seek in a woman with online dating we can actually write it down. We can list our preferences, our likes and dislikes.

One of the beauties of online dating is the ability to narrow the search. It is really the complete reverse of conventional pickups. The beauty of online dating is the reverse order of events. Before meeting you have a good idea of how compatible is the lady you write to and how high the chances of her being a suitable partner for you?

What is the attraction of these Russian and Ukrainian ladies? Obviously many of them are physically beautiful, but actually there is something more than this. To pinpoint this inner beauty is not easy. Is it their seemingly inner stillness? Is it the openness and direct and honest approach to life they seem to share? Their intelligence, or all of these attributes combined? It is a mystery for each man meeting them to resolve personally.

You will find that many of the young ladies actively seek older men. Why is this? Ukraine and Russian ladies mature, at what is by western standards, a very young age. Also a huge percentage of them have both studied at university and embarked on a profession by the age of 22-23. Whilst having a very young girlfriend or wife can seem very appealing, it is worth considering the age gap with some care. Really this is a very individual choice and decision and as more and more men in the west take more care of themselves, workout, improve their diet and keep fit, the age gap can be of less importance.

Ok, you have found the lady, or ladies that appeal to you and you are ready to start writing to them. As with most women these ladies love compliments, if sincere and kind and thoughtful words. An interesting Russian Phrase, “men think with their eyes, women with their ears”. They really are less concerned with how you look, than how you are. Whilst this is often true with women everywhere it is probably even more the case with these ladies.

What is commonly disliked? Greed, meanness and dishonesty is generally at the top of many of these ladies’ hate lists, any display of these traits is a very good way to lose the interest of your lady. To be clear by greed and meanness, it is not the material. They love in general a warm and generous nature and a kind and giving heart. It is how so many of them are themselves. By western standards they are short of money and live without so many of the comforts and technological toys that are enjoyed in the west, but they usually share freely of what they have. It is another of the very endearing and common traits of these ladies. You will need to be awake and alert with these ladies, many are smart,very smart. Try to understand the meaning beyond the words.

The above advice is intended as a guide, a roadmap to the heart of one of these ladies.

Do all of these ladies share these qualities? No of course not as with all nations, all countries, there are the not so nice ladies and even bad or dishonest ladies, but they are a minority, a very small minority.

Good luck.

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12 Keys To Keep Love Alive In Marriage






Weather you are 3 months married or 3 years married, the busyness of life and the stresses of work can take their toll on your relationship. Everyday hundreds of people file for divorce. Why? One reason is that their marriage has became dull, boring and routine. This articles contains simple things that will reignite the spark that has disappeared from your relationship.

1. Firstly, you have to make your marriage your priority.

Make a decision with your spouse to sit down and review this list of practical ideas for making your marriage great. Add anything that you think will work for you both that I have omitted.

2. Keep in touch.

Check in on each other during the day. Even it you happen to work in the same building, it is always nice to get a text or email saying ‘You are still as beautiful as ever,’ or ‘You still give me butterflies.’ Sometimes it is nice to know that your wife or husband is thinking about you.

3. Do the unexpected.

Surprise your spouse with flowers, a gift, or a night out on the town with no alternative agenda and expecting nothing in return. Planning something special is an excellent way to infuse romance into your relationship. Sometimes even the smallest surprises can feel like the biggest.

4. Talk about your personal goals.

Sit down together and talk about what you want out of life, what you want to achieve as a couple and personally. Write these down. Review them and modify them every few months. This makes you aware of what your spouse wants and their goals.

5. Develop and nurture friendships.

Have friendships outside of each other. Do not become an exclusive couple that never do anything with anyone else! We all need friendships to develop and grow us.

6. Do not criticise.

Do not put down or criticise your spouse in front of other people. Instead, decide that you will both commit to build up and support each other when talking to other people.

7. Keep yourself in good physical shape.

This may not seem important to you, but I am sure it is important to your spouse! Keeping yourself healthy not only will decrease the risks of diabetes and heart problems, but also help to keep the attraction alive between both of you. You do not have to spend alot on a gym membership, you can go walking or jogging together each evening.

8. Plan weekend getaways.

At least once a year plan to go away for a weekend. Team up with another married couple and they can babysit your children while you are away and then you can return the favor. It does not have to be an expensive weekend but it is vital that you get this time alone to spend with each other.

9. Do not let the sun go down on your anger.

NEVER go to bed harboring offence or hurt with your spouse that you have not already discussed. If you were disappointed, hurt or upset with their behaviour, discuss it. Do not enter into an argument but talk openly about what it was that bothered you and why.

10. Be quick to forgive and quick to say sorry.

Bitterness and offence is like cancer. If left alone it gradually keeps growing and growing until it takes over. Do not let bitterness or offence at your spouse take over the love you once had. Talk things through. If you need to seek outside help like counselling, do so.

11. Compliment your spouse.

Take time to notice everyday things that your spouse does like preparing a meal, cleaning the house, doing the shopping. This shows your spouse that you appreciate them and the things that they do and you do not take for granted the effort they put into it.

12. Be there.

Sometimes all your spouse needs is someone to be there, not to shout, order or demand, but to love and support. If they are having a difficult day, respect that and give them space if needed.

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Pretty Russian Girl






There is nothing more enticing or alluring than the prospect of finding that one true love. Perhaps the only thing better could be true love with a catwalk model. For thousands of forlorn, abandoned, rejected or just fed up with feminism’ men in Western Europe, the USA, Canada and Australia, all trails seem to ‘lead eastward’ as they search for the love of their life. The marriage agency business in Ukraine is booming. It was born shortly the fall of the wall, but received its biggest infusion of life about 7 years ago with the rise in popularity of the Internet.

Ukraine is second after Russia in numbers of women using the Internet superhighway to find love and romance and, perhaps, a better life. But how many of these women are for real? How many wants love, marriage and a little one in a baby carriage? Surprisingly enough after talking with a cross-section of men recently arrived in Kyiv from Western Europe, the USA and Canada on marriage tours, not as many as you would think are interested in pursuing marriage. These men, who had been corresponding with the woman of ‘their dreams’ for many months, were dismayed to find that once on the ground in Ukraine, a different story was on the verge of ruining their fairytale quest for a Slavic princess. There were three com?plaints this reporter heard from all but two of the men. Number one:

I. The girl said she had second thoughts and didn’t want to get married so soon.

2. The girl said she had no plans to leave Ukraine.

3. The girl ‘appeared’ interested only in going out and having a good time.

“It was just a bit strange to me,” says Curtis, a computer programmer from San Jose California. Curtis had been corresponding with a girl named Svetlana in Kyiv for about 6 months before deciding to take the plunge. “Everything appears o.k. on the surface, but when I want to talk about specifics, plans for the future, she backs off. I mean I am only here for 7 days, I don’t have a long time to put things together, it was really kind of frustrating,” he says. Curtis also says the passion and heartfelt feelings that were in the emails and letters before his arrival were missing in the face to face contact. “There was something peculiar about our first and second meetings. I didn’t get the impression that I was talking to the same girl I had been writing to for a half of a year. She said she didn’t want to get married so soon and that she was nervous about relocating to the USA,” said Curtis. Those two points are the sticklers. Yes, marriage is a big step, and one should be a little nervous about broaching the subject, but shouldn’t that be a consideration before a person enlists the services of a marriage agency, not after the guy you have been writing ‘sweet nothings’ to shows up at Boryspil Airport?

The first two points were put to American businessman and longtime Kyiv resident Mr. Brett Ousley, himself President of Kiev Connections. “I am a single guy, and have used agencies in the past, and some of the problems mentioned are what led me to open up my own agency”, he says. Brett says many of the plethora of agencies in Ukraine are in the business to collect and sell as many names and addresses as they can. This ‘killing the golden goose’ mentality in the marriage agency business is bad for the legitimate operations who genuinely try to match the appropriate people for a solid relationship. “I remember this one time, years ago, I was on a date with a girl from some agency in town,” says Ousley, “and after I pick her up we start walking to this cafe in order to get to know each other better. As we are walking, she nonchalantly blurts out that she can not be out late because her husband will be home in a while”. Needless to say, Ousley politely ducked out. “She was amazing, she like said I hope this doesn’t preclude us going out tonight? I said well, ‘what’s the point’, see ya later,” says the disgusted bride hunter.

Ousley says this experience was such a shocker that it has helped form a cornerstone of his operation. Through screening of the applicants, his suspicions were well founded. What some people don’t consider as that this is a ‘win win’ situation for the ladies,” says Ousley. “It costs them nothing. The risk is the man’s. She waits for the agency to call, or she collects the letters, gifts and dates all for free, while the man uses his one vacation a year, buys a ticket, lodgings in Kyiv and lays his heart on the line, so that is why we make sure our girls are on the level,” says Ousley. Ousley says that he periodically reviews a girl’s status, and that some are rejected, or removed from his roster if they are found to be just in the game for a good time and not serious. Another agency that specializes in personalized matchmaking is the Mordinson Agency of Kharkiv. Mordinson is a premium agency specializing in some of ‘the most attractive women in the Kharkiv region, and goes to the trouble of listing it’s success stories on the web site, with actual photos of the couples it has produced. “Our girls are all interested in getting married and we go to the trouble of individually tailoring a program for the man who is visiting, so he feels special and the process goes smoothly,” says representative Darya Mordinson. “We don’t conduct these uncomfortable ‘meat-market’ socials that some of the bigger agencies conduct,” she says of the classic marriage agency meets where ten guys will find themselves facing a room full of up to sixty girls. “The meetings we offer are all individual and only with girls or women who are definitely interested in the man so that disappointment is who have dealt with the mass marketers of names and addresses. You can tell such sites right away when you load up their page on your browser. You see about ten to fifteen photos per page, nearly identical wording on the bios, normally only credit card payment info and no one person’s name at the top who you can talk to if you have a problem. If you are surfing for an agency, a sign that one is more credible than others would be the listing of a phone number and a manager’s name. This tells you there is someone accountable, and if possible before you send any money or write any romantic thoughts, spend the dollar it costs per minute for the long distance call from abroad and touch base with the manager. From your conversation you will be able to tell if this is a ‘take the money and run’ operation or one that will work with you in attempting to find the match of a lifetime. The address sellers are the weak link in the marriage agency chain.?

Marriage agencies do attract negative publicity, and are still seen as somewhat exploitative, but it is worth remembering that they exist everywhere. However, the financial differentials between Western husbands and Slavic brides has left the practice open to attack. In the late 1990s a feminist legislator from Washington State proposed a law wherein background checks should be required of men enlisting the services of a marriage agency overseas. Allegedly responding to cases wherein eastern European and Asian women were bought as mail order brides and abandoned or abused in the United States, the legislation was thrown out, largely due to the lack of concrete cases of abuses. In fact, many agencies make a point of listing success stories of ‘happy ever after’ couples on their sites, and guard against getting involved with any Western client deemed ‘undesirable’.

In general, potential bride hunters should be careful when choosing an agency and ask those sensitive tough questions before hopping on a plane or forking out a lot of money for that one ‘special girl’. There are many genuine ladies looking for long-term involvement, but there are also many girls more excited by the prospect of ‘no strings’ fun with comparatively well-off foreign man. Happy hunting!

An Introduction to Brides Chat Services






For the lonely ones among us who yearn for lifelong companionship, signing up for mail order brides seems to be the way to go. The concept has lost much of its undertones of sleaze and gained more widespread acceptance. This has a lot to do with the internet breaking down many social and geographical barriers to allow people from different countries to get acquainted with one another.

In order to find a mail order wife from Russia, you’ll need to join an online service, if you don’t already have a friend who can make introductions for you. It’s easy to find them, but determining which one offers legitimate Russian brides chat, among other things, is a different matter altogether. Many sites offer free membership with limited features to allow you to gauge whether a paid subscription is worth it. These sites can also be hosted in Russia too. However, to prevent personal and financial information from falling into the wrong hands, it would be better for you to consider a site hosted in your own country.

As they’re quite upfront, it’s only fair to tell a Russian woman whether or not you’re interested in a long-term relationship when you’re participating in a Russian brides chat. This is because many of them sign up with these sites for the express purpose of marrying someone who isn’t Russian. It can be frustrating for a girl to discover a guy is only interested in a casual friendship whereas she’s looking for lifetime commitment.

Picking out a wife through your computer monitor can feel like online shopping. But you’ll quickly realize that meeting mail order brides in person is very different from interacting online. Once you’ve committed to your bride and obtained that visa to fly out to see her, it would be best to learn as much as you can about her language and culture before the meeting takes place. Don’t be too surprised if she doesn’t speak English as fluently as she writes, and be aware that things that are considered the norm in Russia may be surprising in your own country, and vice versa.

It’s incredibly easy to look for your Russian dream girl. The reality can be a bit trickier. But, things are likely to be smooth sailing once you’ve got those devilish details ironed out.

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